There are purposes to life outside of love. Issac Newton, miserable person as he was, is a perfect example of a good life lived without love.
I'd like to give some advice to anyone out there, male, female, straight gay or bi, who is looking for their perfect person.
Stop.
First: Be certain you can honestly say that you love yourself. If you can say that and also say that you don't know yourself, you're lying about the love. Know yourself, first, then trust yourself, then you can love yourself. After all, if you can't love yourself, how can anyone else really love you?
Second: eliminate your preconceptions. Your perfect person, isn't. Get rid of your notions of what your perfect someone is, and that will let you open up to the infinite possibilities surrounding you. This may take time, or it may swat you in the face with an iPad.
If you find someone you like to be around who also likes to be around you, go with him/her/it. If you two have no deal-breakers (religion is common, drug use too, allergies vs dogs is another, etc), and your favorite thing to do is either spend time with one another (clingy, okay if both are) or updating each other on your lives (non-clingy, also should be bothwise), you might wanna put a ring on it.
Third: know when to quit! If you find someone who meets the above criteria, and they feel the same way, cash in! If you're with someone who makes you unhappy, be clear that you'll be dating around and it'll be nice to talk to them sometime, later on. Either way, do what's best for YOU.
Fourth: (optional) Marriage isn't for everyone, but if it is for you, you truly know you're ready when you can honestly say to yourself that you want all that person's problems to become your problems. This essentially is what marriage entails, after all, and if you can find a stranger with that appeal to you, and they feel the same way, sign that nuptial.
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